HOW TO SEE THROUGH PEOPLE LIES

INTRODUCTION

       Being fooled,conned,duped,or plain lied can happen to anyone. it dosesn't matter how smart,old,rich, or famous you are.Almost everyone at one point in their life,and in one way of another ,has been the victim of a liar.rest assured that u are not alone.the world is full of there most toxic of people, the liar

IMPORTANT SKILL TO DETECT SOMEONE LIES

• you must trust your  on learning to listen to the little signal in your own body, signal that are alerting you that something is wrong
• you will learn to discover the importance of context in assessing whether a person is lying  
• gently underlying cause for the suspect body language movement and vocal cues

FOUR COMPONENTS OF LIAR'S COMUNICATION

• FACIAL LANGUAGE
• BODY LANGUAGE
• VOICE PATTERNS
• SPEECH PATTERNS

THE BODY LANGUAGE OF A LIAR

Lance Armstrong during his interview showing tenseness in his shoulders and upper chest breathing.

he admitted to oprah that he  had engaged in doping but from time to time you can observe a visable tenseness in his shoulder as he breathed.

BREATHING CHANGES

    First thing you will notice if someone lies is a change is his or her breathing.when people are calm and relaxed, they will usually breath in such a way that you'll be able to see their abdoment moving up and down.but when someone is lying,or at least showing sign of deception. he/she will often breathe in such a way that instead of seeing abdoment moving up and down,you will see upper chest and shoulders rise and fall.

BLOWING OUT AIR

           when someone is engage in deception, you will often see him suddenly puff out his cheecks as he exhale.he is doing oxygenating cause his autonomic nervous system is working overtime because of sudden buildup of carbon dioxide in his system.this help liar regain his composure as he release the buildup of tension cause by lying. this blowing up is huge "tell" when detecting a liar.

SKIN CHANGES

    when people lies can often observe change in their skin,in lighter skin people the skin become flushed while in darker skinned people, the skin can become paler or ashier.

John Edward blushing and perspiring(two signals of deception)

  here we can see John Edward mug photo,the lies he telling is that he is happy and that all is well

even though his lips are smiling, it is very much fake smile.his "happiness" is also belied by the darkened and blotchy or mottled skin on his face and neck.the blush is much more obvious.

SWEAT

  

          perspiration on the face may also indicate deception.sweat will often break out on the forehead,nose ,cheek,chin and upper lip.in the photo facial sweat is the result of the body generating heat,which also accounts for concurrent redness and blushing. in the body's attempt to cool down,sweat is released through the pores of the body and the face.

CHANGE IN THE HAND AND ARM

Finger and nail biting

    when people are nervous and anxious ,it is not uncommon it is not uncommon to see them with their fingers in their mouth.since lying is a stressful event,they may bite their fingers or nail to help release stress and tension

Covering the mouth

  

     a telltale sign of lying is that a person will automatically put their hand over their mouth when they dont want to deal with an issue or answer a question.it is a primitive,instinctual response to place your hand to shut your self up.children do this quiet often.

Neck touching

    when people cover their throut with their hand,it is often automatic,uncontrollable protective gesture indicating vulnerability.sometime this feeling of vulnerability is a natural result of lying.

source:the ultimate book of body language by lilian glass.